Intimidating children

Obviously, you don't want to talk sh*t about your co-parent to your child, because a part of your kid is your ex-partner and when you talk badly about your ex, you're telling your kid that there's a part of them that's bad too.

And also it's just lame to use your kid as an instrument of revenge against your ex, or try to get them to pick sides, no matter what.

While it might make you feel somewhat uncomfortable or even confused and lost, there is absolutely no reason to lie to your kid in those key, important moments when they're looking for honest, informative answers.

Of course, there is a time and a place and a specific age when it becomes appropriate to let your kid know more and more about you.

But when you reach those moments, why would you lie.

Misinformation doesn't deter children so much as it blinds them.

If you're upset or you're scared or you're anything in between, let your kid know. And, of course, there are times when you need to be "strong" for your kid, but sometimes "being strong" means showing your emotions and explaining to your children why it's OK to cry and be upset and feel whatever it is that you're feeling.

You don't have to be a robot, devoid of human emotion, in order to be someone your kid admires or looks up to or trusts. For many parents, they don't even have the option of lying about racism, bigotry, or hatred; they face it every day and it is as real as the air they breathe.

But if you aren't one of those people, don't lie to your children and pretend like these difficult and upsetting realities aren't part of every day life.

One of the (many) reasons why kids end up experimenting with drugs and alcohol is because they're constantly being lied to about them.

Society has created an enticing taboo that kids are curious to explore.

It comes as no surprise that parenting means, from time to time, that you'll tell a few white lies to your children.

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