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Many people, especially those with a penchant for unavailable relationships, struggle with rejection and take it very personally, which is unsurprising when they also fear making mistakes and engage in trying to ‘win’ people over.

go through it although you’ll notice that those who cope with rejection, don’t call it ‘rejection’.

What you need to realise about avoiding rejection, whether it’s by living in the past, fearing starting over and giving yourself a hard time about all of the things that you perceive as a rejection of you, or you’ve been clinging to a one trick three legged horse and refusing to fold on a relationship that’s completely detracting from you, is: rejectionable and that there is external evidence to support their mindset means that the unhealthy beliefs and feeding the self-fulfilling prophecy automatically opt them out of anything that contradicts this, not least because they’re not participating actively in their lives and moving forward.

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The more fixated you are on finding love and obsessed about entering marriage, the more desperate you will appear, because eventually, the things that you think about most start seeping into every part of your life for the whole world to see.

Here are some ways to stop fixating on your fears and begin focusing on your future: 1.

Invest in the kind of places that will draw you to these kinds of people, all the while quenching your heart with the things you love the most. Be open to making new friends: Christian young adults can be terrified of male/female friendships.

Afraid of risking a broken heart, or looking inappropriate to the innocent passerby, it’s easy to avoid friendships that could very well be the foundation of finding a future mate.

Find activities and passions that resonate with your heart, because there, you will find people who connect with your heart.

The best relationships are made up of two people with similar passions and shared interests.

Unfortunately, if you have found yourself in unavailable relationships, especially as a Fallback Girl (or guy), you have some major issues with rejection, either taking it too hard and being derailed by it, or busting a gut to ensure that you don’t experience it, even though you actually .

Every day I hear stories of people who are completely overwhelmed by rejection or repeatedly throwing themselves under the same rejection bus because they don’t want to deal with the pain of accepting someone’s choice in another person or their treatment of them.

The first step to being gracefully available is in exchanging your fear for trust in God- trusting that He knows the way, and that His plan for your life is always what’s best.

Exchanging fear for trust will ultimately free you to live abundantly rather than desperately. Get involved in things you love: The best way to meet a potential match is to get out there and do what you love.

“They need to apply the same attitude and gumption that got them to New York City to the task of getting a husband.” So listen up, unattached ladies!

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